The question

As I have said before I am happily single and divorced for almost ten years now.  My gorgeous daughter calls the day her Father and I separated 'Independence Day'.  She tells me it's the day I really started to come into my own and have grown significantly since then. 

Being separated and divorced certainly has some challenges but that's no different to anyone else. My husband and I parted on reasonably amicable terms although it was a decision that was taken out of my hands a long time ago. I will not go into all the details but lets say I chose to never do anything I would not be proud of in the future. But just sometimes something comes out of left field that can be a challenge I did not expect.

There have been family celebrations that have posed some problems but my children are very supportive and we manage to work around most things.  However on the weekend I was posed the question from my lovely granddaughter "Where's your husband Nana?" I replied "I don't have a husband Soph".  Then only as a four year old with a very enquiring mind (and who is also a wedding-a-holic)asked "Why" 

Now she as is four and I am definitely not going to go into a lot of detail. I can't really remember what either her Mum or I said but we fudged over it a bit with a little bit of an explanation that Nana used to be married to Poppy. I am not going to denigrate her much loved Poppy or get into any discussion about his partner.  I know as she gets older the question will come again and I want to be ready and the older she gets the more details she will want.  But I don't know what to say. 

Could it be something like: Sometimes when people get married they don't quite fit together right and so they decide it's better to just be friends and not live together.  

It's one I will have to dwell on for a while. It was such an innocent question however on reflection has upset and hurt me much more than I thought.